At
first glance you might be inclined to think this is another
weight loss article. Not even close!
The
intention of this article is to take you deeper into the human
physique. To show you how we think and speak, not only to
those around us; to ourselves, in our own minds and how it
affects our lives. I hope you will see how this all ties into
your health, fitness and the successes of your entire life.
If
you are like me, your "But" problem does not lie in where
you sit. It lays in that little voice you hear in your head,
otherwise known as self talk.
Many
people who know me by coming to my gym automatically know
the proper response to someone saying they "can't" do something.
It's almost like a vaudeville act when a newcomer blurts out,
"I wish I could do that, but I can't ..." The people around
them quickly respond with, "Never say can't."
Two
of the most common negative words used in the English vocabulary
are "but" and can't".
But
- conjunction - With the exception that, except that
Can't
- contraction - Formed by combining the words can and not;
to be unable
Neither
is necessarily bad. The problem arises when an individual
uses these words in an attempt to justify not following through
with a decision or commitment.
In
my profession, I hear something along the following lines
daily; 'I would love to get in shape, but...........' or 'I
can't get in shape because……..' Personally, it would have
better for them to not say anything at all!
I
don't apologize for my harshness here because it's a fact.
Keep
in mind that there are really only two types of people in
this world. Those who can and those who can't. Both are right,
and I ask, which are you? When you imply that you can do something
and then use "but" or "can't" to justify not doing it, you
completely wipe out everything said prior. Therefore, there
was no real reason to say anything at all.
In
many cases this type of limited thinking is attributed to
the type of people we keep as company. Likeminded people tend
to cling to each other.
This
takes us to the "The Crab Theory". Take a bucket full of crabs.
When one crab attempts to climb out over the side, the other
crabs will grab it and pull it back into the bucket. The result
is none of the crabs ever succeed. Even though they all can
escape, they're more content with pulling each other down
and remaining at the same level. People can act in this very
same way.
Success
can be greatly attributed to the people whom we surround ourselves.
Just like a fish bought from a pet store. If it was left in
the bag or cup it was purchased in, chances are it will not
grow much. Release it into a fish tank or pond and it will
grow into the size of its surroundings.
Release
yourself and continue to grow. The confidence it brings will
open up more doors than you can imagine. How about using this
in your thinking … I can AND I will. And is so much better
than but.
